Coming Out Resources

As a youth LGBT organization, we definitely get our share of questions about coming out.  We realize that the decision to come out (or not) is highly individual and a number of factors (including family acceptance, economic resources, community support, etc) are involved.  The common feature of all these decisions is that they require some degree of communication--someone to talk to, in other words.  That "someone" can be online or in person or on the phone or in a book, but it always helps to build that support network. I've compiled some resources for youth (or anyone, really) to seek out when coming out.  Remember it's not something you have to do, or something you have to do all at once.  You also don't have to come out as the same thing all the time (you might refer to yourself as "trans" in one situation or "genderqueer" in another, for example).  Again, the experience is individual.  But you don't have to do it alone!

• GLSEN's coming out page has tips on starting the conversation, getting support, and really asking yourself if you're ready.  It also has links to GLSEN chapters across the nation if you want to seek local support.
• A local GSA at a high school or youth center can be a great locus of support, and a safe space for you to come out to a small group first.  GSA Network might help you find a local chapter, or just do a simple internet search for support in your area.
• The Human Rights Campaign coming out guide is pretty comprehensive and has links to other literature.
• Empty Closets is an online community for queer and questioning youth.
• See this list of books that your local library might have on coming out.
• Lastly, don't be afraid to talk to a close friend or family member whose confidentiality you can rely on.  

Reach out to your friends, family, community, schools, the online queer community--support is out there!